If you’ve ever thought that change is hard, you might be going about it in the wrong way.
If you’re listening to this show you’re likely into personal development, but let me ask you a question…
Is it actually working?
My guest today just released a new book, Personality Isn’t Permanent, that debunks the pervasive myths of personality that have captured pop cultu re. For example, personality tests like Myers-Briggs and Enneagram are not only psychologically destructive but are no more scientific than horoscopes.
Personality Isn’t Permanent provides science-based strategies for reframing past memories, becoming the scribe of your identity narrative, upgrading your subconscious, and redesigning your environment. Science proves you are going to change throughout your life. You might as well be intentional about that change.
Dr. Benjamin Hardy is an organizational psychologist and bestselling author Willpower Doesn’t Work. From 2015-2018, he was the #1 writer in the world on Medium.com. During that time, he grew his email list from 0 to 400,000 without paid advertising. Ben and his wife Lauren adopted three children from the foster system in February 2018 and one month later, Lauren got pregnant with twins who were born in December of 2018. They live in Orlando. Ben’s blogs are read by millions monthly.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- Why Ben got deeper into writing about and getting into the conversation around trauma.
- What he found most surprising about personality.
- How people describe themselves and why that’s blocking change.
- Why we have come into more of a test and assessment culture when it comes to personality.
- How overly defining your personality is a synonym for your comfort zone.
- How trauma influences how we define ourselves.
- Why trauma shrinks your comfort zone.
- The importance of learning and using emotion regulation.
- How we can rewrite the narrative of our personality.
- How to use the concept of your future self to reinvent yourself.
- How to use the past as information instead of it crippling you in the present moment.
- Using your goals and values to shape who you are right now.
- How to start using the future self exercise.
- Why your goals are key for moving forward.
- The difference between subconscious beliefs and emotions.
Resources:
- Pick up Personality Isn’t Permanent on Amazon
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