It’s safe to say we are living in a time where what it means to be a man is being re-defined. It’s easy to look at the command and control model of leadership, and other things like aggression in most cases, and see where those no longer work. But what about in the less obvious places?
My guest today helps men to overcome something he calls the “nice guy syndrome.” I was pretty shocked after digging into this work how many characteristics I’ve seen in my own relationships.
Now you may be thinking what I was when I first heard the title… Does that mean I just have to be an asshole? You’ll hear (just like I found out) this isn’t the case. Dr. Glover suggest that a recovering nice guy (you know, on the other side) turns into an integrated male.
Dr. Robert Glover is the author of the bestselling book, No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want In Love, Sex and Life. His website www.drglover.com features numerous online self-help courses, workshops, groups, and trained coaches and therapists. Dr. Glover lives in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.
We dive into No More Mr. Nice Guy and unpack some of the tendencies of a nice guy and what it means to become an Integrated Male.
In this episode you’ll learn
- Tendencies that often come with the “nice guy syndrome”
- The importance of learning how to set boundaries
- Why we have to make our own needs more of a priority
- How to show up powerfully, and be clear and direct with our plan
- The problem with always trying to please others
- How emotional tension can actually generate more connection
- Why the “nice guy syndrome” often stems from anxiety
- How the dis-empowered male can reclaim his masculine energy
- Ways to move past our feelings of resistance
- The importance of having support systems in our life
- Why “nice guys” often struggle with procrastination
- How we can develop into “The integrated male”
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“What one man can do, another can do.“
– Charles Morse – The Edge
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Resources
- Pick up No More Mr Nice Guy on Amazon
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