Coping is how we adjust to stress in order to make the situation bearable. But when a coping mechanism (healthy or unhealthy) becomes a habit, we’ve missing the message that the situation and resulting emotion is trying to teach us.
And when we try to cope our way through we don’t make our way through.
Just like physical pain, emotional pain is telling us to adjust something.
To let go of something, to set a healthy boundary, to speak up, or to show up in a new way.
But instead of getting the message and adjusting accordingly, we miss the message and ignore its relevance.
Then we think we have a surface level problem that needs to be fixed instead of the simple adjustment in thinking, feeling, or being that it originated as.
When business slows down, we think it’s just a marketing problem.
When it’s hard to sit down and stay focused we think it’s just a time management and attention problem.
When we’re lacking the energy to pursue what we want, we think it’s an energy and motivation problem.
But the problem is always deeper than that.
It’s not always easy to get the message, but when it does become clear you’ll feel the release. Things start clicking with less effort and exertion.
You’ll breathe easier.
You’ll recover from speed bumps along the way faster.
You’ll have more available energy.
Getting into action will take less thought.
When you have true understanding, you’ll be more nimble.
Sure, you’ll still run into challenges, but you’ll be able to adjust quicker and honor you in the process.
Get the message you need to learn and then build on top of your understanding. This is a solid ground to build from.
As athletes and high achievers it can seem defeating to ask for help. But even the best athletes in the world have coaches. So if you’ve been trying to entertain, distract, or buy your way through what you’re facing and you’re ready to dig in and do the real work to take your business to the next level then book a time to chat.
Book a free consult at jeffa.co/chat to see if we’re a fit to help you get over the anxiety and overwhelm so you can grow your business and build a life you’re proud of.
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